Advice columnist???

"Dear Mekayla, I am seeking your advice on my current situation with my ex-husband current boyfriend. I know that you are the most honest person i know and will tell me what i should do." and so the phone call began.
"Okay tell me whats up"
she continued, "Ubbergeek went out to get a drink with a girlfriend of a friend of his and didnt tell me about it."
Me: "did he lie about going to get a drink with her?"
Her: "yes"
Me: "How did you find out about it?"
Her: "I caught them when he returned to work"
Me: "what did he tell you?"
Her: "that a friend of his asked if he wanted to go have a drink with his chic cause she was parked outside and he couldnt get away from work to take her himself, and since he was on a break he went ahead and went"
Me: "what did you say?"
Her: "that he should be trying harder if he wants things to work out between us, and he needed to stop lying"
Me: "what was the lie?"
Her: "what?"
"what was the lie?"
Her: "umm... well he didnt call me to tell me what he was doing on his break"
Me: "okay .. shut up .. stop.. listen to yourself. he didnt lie to you .. he just didnt check in with you, which is a little obsessive on your part to expect him to. He was working, just because he went to have a drink on his break doesnt mean he has to call you. Second your freaking out.. if he would have called you, there is no way in hell that you would have just said .. 'Oh okay .. have fun' .. NO .. you would have tracked his ass down and found out where he was and who he was with and caused a scene. Third, your obsession is brought on by you dating your ex-husband who cheated on you and left your for someone from work. (remember the divorce?) You chose this and for it you will never be okay with any female that he works with, why because you dont trust him and you know it. But please dont accuse him of lying when he didnt lie. You just expect more from him than he is capable of giving. He is a cheating bastard who doesnt really care what his action will put you through ................ and you cannot expect more than that from him. Fourth, you parked outside his job waiting for him to return from his break so you could know exactly what he was doing and who he was with because you dont trust him enough to tell you when he gets out. Dont tell me its because you were worried, its because your obsessive. (That in itself shows that this is not healthy for either of you and may need some professional help.)
Know that you cannot change him because you think he should work harder, try harder, or give up more of himself for you. Thats not who he is. So either accept him for what he is, or leave his ass and get on with your own life. You've gotten over him once, the second time wont be as hard."
(was that harsh?)
i think i need my own advice column.
oh well .. anyone need help??